The world is full of sorrow
The root of sorrow is attachment desire
The uprooting of sorrow is the dropping of attachment
How does one drop it?
One only looks and sees that it is based on a false belief
The belief that without this I cannot be happy
That's false, the moment you see that's false you're free
-Anthony De Mello
I've had a lot of examples of these false beliefs in my experiences.
One recent experience was having all these plans for an outing with a friend be cancelled. Plans had been made, was going to be dinner, a light walk afterwards.
That was the simplicity of it, the dinner outing was cancelled.
The false beliefs I was having that led to suffering were the stories. I'm not a priority, why is this happening to me, why does this always happen to me, what's wrong with that person. So many judgements and stories, layering on top of the basic reality that plans had been cancelled.
I was basing my happiness on plans going as planned, and if anything changed those plans, I was no longer happy.
I can be happy and free once I had the awareness of the false belief I needed that event to happen in order to be happy.